Over the course of a TfM weekend we get asked LOTS of questions about marriage. In fact we include a whole session that allows husbands and wives to gather separately and anonymously ask any question they like about marriage. These sessions are generally profound; encouraging frank, honest and deep communication from the heart.
In our culture (and many others) it’s pretty much a thing to pretend everything is going pretty well. Yes we might have the occasional moan about how he never makes dinner or that she can be a bit of a nag. But to actually admit that a marriage is failing is a real ‘no no’ generally until a couple has decided they want out and it’s too late. But what is a failing marriage anyway? Our observation is that a lot of marriages just crumble over a period of time and whilst a lack of communication is a massive issue, quite often there’s a problem and the couple think it’s only them experiencing it. They get so stuck thinking they are alone and unable to admit to anyone that things aren’t right, that the problem feels like it gets bigger and they find they can’t work out the solution.
This is why we have the Questions session in our TfM Weekends and it is also the main reason why we are exited to launch our Ask an Expert events. Our passion is to give couples the opportunity to anonymously ask absolutely anything about marriage. We’re keen to answer questions about how to cope when your partner seems to be completely the opposite to you or how to keep your communication going when your partner is more interested in watching TV. We want to talk about whether it’s OK to say no when you don’t want sex or if it’s OK to use sex toys. We want to talk openly about jealousy and forgiveness. So we’ve created a safe place where you can do just that: Ask an Expert.
How does it work?
The format is simple: we assemble a panel of four experts and invite people to anonymously ask them anything about marriage. The results are profound, encouraging frank and open debates about subjects not normally discussed.
The evening generally runs over two hours and can be for anyone, any age, married or not, Christian or not. Experts typically include a Christian psychosexual therapist, a church leader and members of the TfM team.
We will host the evening at your venue, facilitate questions and answers as well as providing a media pack (including printed invitations) for you to market the event. All that we ask is that you cover our expenses and make a donation to time for marriage.
For more information, visit our Ask an Expert page.