Over the course of a TfM weekend we get asked LOTS of questions about marriage. In fact we include a whole session that allows husbands and wives to gather separately and anonymously ask any question they like about marriage. These sessions are generally profound; encouraging frank, honest and deep communication from the heart.
In our culture (and many others) it’s pretty much a thing to pretend everything is going pretty well. Yes we might have the occasional moan about how he never makes dinner or that she can be a bit of a nag. But to actually admit that a marriage is failing is a real ‘no no’ generally until a couple has decided they want out and it’s too late. But what is a failing marriage anyway? Our observation is that a lot of marriages just crumble over a period of time and whilst a lack of communication is a massive issue, quite often there’s a problem and the couple think it’s only them experiencing it. They get so stuck thinking they are alone and unable to admit to anyone that things aren’t right, that the problem feels like it gets bigger and they find they can’t work out the solution.
This is why we have the Questions session in our TfM Weekends and it is also the main reason why we are exited to launch our Ask an Expert events. Our passion is to give couples the opportunity to anonymously ask absolutely anything about marriage. We keen to answer questions about how to cope when your partner seems to be completely the opposite to you or how to keep your communication going when your partner is more interested in watching TV. We want to talk about whether it’s OK to say no when you don’t want sex or if it’s OK to use sex toys. We want to talk openly about jealousy and forgiveness. So we’ve created a safe place where you can do just that: Ask an Expert.
How does it work?
Before coming to an Ask an Expert event, people can anonymously submit their questions through our website. We gather these questions up and then get our panel of experts to answer them at the event. The event is generally held in a church environment but it can be held anywhere and during the evening there is an opportunity to throw in more questions.
Who is it for?
ANYONE! Obviously the focus on marriage but the great thing about this event is that you can come even if your partner can’t make it. It’s also ideal for couples considering marriage and even single people have found it interesting. You don’t have to have a faith although if there’s a question about faith in marriage, we will answer it! However, we don’t recommend that you bring your kids!
Meet the ‘Experts’?
Our team of experts are generally reluctant to call themselves experts as we’re all learning in this joyful journey of marriage. Generally they will be a church leader, a psychosexual therapist and member of the TfM team. Our ‘expertise’ is either through our training or our experience of walking with couples and of course we share from our own experiences of being married.
Host an Ask an Expert event
If you are interesting in hosting an Ask an Expert event do get in touch with us. We will provide ‘experts’ and host the evening for you. We will also provide you with a media pack for publicity and simply ask for a donation to cover our expenses. We also run these events for just Husbands and just for Wives. These events are also profound and impacting.